Dealing with Rejection

Rejection has been something of a theme in my recent past.

I strongly supported an idea that I cheered on and championed, only for it to be subsequently viciously and unceremoniously rejected.

I then spearheaded an opportunity that made fast progress, only to be abruptly rejected, after I had more or less popped the champagne that it was a done deal.

I have been fighting on my own and others behalf in a case where I simply feel the wrong thing is being done, and disagreement continues as we face the difficulty of being rejected by those whose responsibility it is to do the right thing by us.

The impact of these scenarios, has been to say the least, difficult. Or to be quite frank, it has been pure stinging devastation.

All the emotions of anger, sadness and indignation at life’s seeming cruelty have swept through my being repeatedly over the past few months.  Those who have been tolerant enough to endure the purging of my emotions have continued to remind me that, “everything happens for a reason,” and to “have patience” and that there is will be a “silver lining” to emerge from the wretchedness.

For the most part, these words have been somewhat empty. But there is a sliver of me that clings to this sage wisdom. There is a part of me that needs it. Because the alternative, that this is just the world, and nothing good will come from it, has seemed far worse.

But while life is bleak, I’ve had to consider that maybe, its not worse.  I have in recent days come to realize a few things, that I wish to write here, as if by writing them, I might stand a chance in believing them.

Life doesn’t owe you anything. 

We are often caught up by what we think we deserve. Our ideas about karma are just ways to justify how we feel when the imbalance of fairness in the world seems to have tipped against our favor. The only sure thing in life is simply that it happens. And it might not be what you like, or what believe you deserve or is fair. But it is neither here nor there. It just simply is. It’s only when you consider that you are not in control, and life doesn’t owe you anything, its only then that you can realize how ridiculous your sense of entitlement is, and only then can you relinquish it. The irony is - it’s only when you surrender to this reality, when you let go of what you think you deserve, that you can truly have any chance to receive it.

Clinging to past pains, and seeking explanations for past perceived wrongs, is ultimately a futile exercise that keeps you looking back, and judging yourself, and your life.  Who are you to judge your life? And who are you to say what you deserve in this life anyway?


All we can ask for in life is to be put to use. What you deserve is to have been useful to your family, and maybe to a few others. That's it. And if you have only that, you have everything.

Do your prayers reflect your hearts desires, or do you seek to have been of use, do you seek to be led to your true purpose, no matter what that is?

So just as every moment just is what it was it was, every next moment is fair game, and holds as much promise as the last. So just keep going. Don’t seek to arrive at your dream destination, seek to be guided, seek to be open and ready, and just move forward.

Comments

afeleki said…
Malo lava!
I love this:
"All we can ask for in life is to be put to use. What you deserve is to have been useful to your family, and maybe to a few others. That's it. And if you have only that, you have everything."

Blessings is life.