Change reflections.

Can I just say the world has changed since my last blog entry on September 23rd? A few reflections, because, we all know I love a good reflection.

Change is the only constant in life. If it catches you off guard, you deserve it because you got too comfortable and you forgot that life and change are much bigger than just you and just this moment.  In the wise words of Janet, “like a moth to flame burned by the fire, that’s the way life goes.” Life doesn’t care about what you think you deserve, or whether you’re ready, quite the opposite. The bitch will just burn you, like, snap. There. You're crisp.  Ready or not. 

Change is the world pushing you out of your comfort zone because you sat too long there. The more difficult the change, the deeper in the comfort zone you are and the more you needed to get out.  Comfort zones are where dreams get "settled" and eventually die. Get out. Stay out.  

“Getting out” is a state of mind, an epiphany of understanding that this is the universe doing you a favor, something you haven’t been able to do for yourself but needed. "Staying out" is to follow through with your actions and actually living the life the universe intends for you. Staying out is also paying attention to the signs, because there are always signs. Gut feelings. Annoying family members who tell you what you don't want to here. Jealousy. Feeling unfulfilled. Pain. Questions. Doubts. Or shock due to imposed, unexpected and difficult change. 

When (not if) you torment yourself by asking why, and particularly why me? you are simply denying the fact that life happens, and life isn't about just you. We torment because we selfishly think of ourselves as deserving more than what we got, and feel entitled to more. But life does not judge or discriminate. It does not reason, or consider how deserving you think you are. When you let go of what you think you deserve, you free yourself. Go ahead. Be free.

Unexpected and difficult changes force you to confront who you really are, and what your real purpose is in life? For me, it's like dusting off a time capsule I buried ten years ago and going, “Shit! Haven’t see you for ages!” and getting excited about what I found there. Pieces of myself I put there, presumably for a time like this, when I needed reminding, when I needed to see my reflection.  


afeleki said…
Wonderful piece, I love your reflections, so observant of insights. I love you.